Low self-esteem is linked to many eating disorders – behind the destructive food patterns is the feeling that “if only I were thinner or more buff, I’d be loved, happier, and life will be better.” The guilt, pain, self-hatred, and despair often make it difficult to look beyond the obsession with food. I see it around me with other teens I know. But it can help to find space in your life that is not dominated by your size, and what you can or cannot eat.

 

At least once a day, try to let yourself take in something good and build on these small positive behaviors as stepping stones toward self-love. Here are 10 ways to be good to yourself today:

 

Don’t focus on your negative features. Instead think about the parts of your body you like the most. Look in the mirror and give yourself a compliment, such as “my hair looks really good today.” By giving yourself positive encouragement, it will help boost your self-esteem and keep your mood up.        

 

2. Exercise

Exercise helps you to feel better, improve your mood, boosts your energy level, and makes it easier to accomplish activities. The general guideline for “feel good” exercising is to do 30 minutes of aerobic exercise such as running, speed walking, biking, dancing or swimming from five to six times each week. This doesn’t mean overdoing it, but using exercise as an outlet to keep your body healthy and fit.

 

3. Have Fun Goals

Let’s say you have a long-term goal like sewing a quilt, making the track team, learning to ride a unicycle, or figuring out how to write computer code. Each time you are able to accomplish a step toward these, give yourself a pat on the back. You will feel more accomplished throughout the process and more encouraged to keep up the good work.

 

Treat yourself to a massage or a day at the spa. This will allow you to relax and get rid of all of your built-up stress. If you’re tight for money, treating yourself can also include watching your favorite movie one night or even just something as simple as taking the time to watch the sun set. It’s always important to allow yourself some “you time.”

 

5. List Your Good Points

It may sound dumb, but creating a list of all of the good qualities about you can be an instant confidence boost when you are feeling down. This list can contain simple things, from “I am very tan and I like it” to “I just got my driver's permit!” Every night before you go to bed take a few minutes to reflect on the good things you did during the day. Even the smallest thing will make you feel better. Positive encouragement just before bedtime is the best way to start a great night's sleep.

 

6. Get Eight Hours of Sleep

A good night’s sleep is the key to success for the next day. When you wake up in the morning you will feel energized and ready to start your day on a positive note. Take care of your body, and your body will thank you.

 

A great way to make a quick change is to have a change of scenery, even if it’s just exploring a new store or park you haven’t been to. Pack your bags and don’t forget the swim trunks, a good, uplifting book, and your shades. Whether it’s a day at the local beach or a trip away to your relatives, travel can be invigorating. It will allow you to get away from all of the stresses at home and you will come back feeling like a new person!

 

Doing something good for someone else is the easiest way to feel good about you. The simple heartfelt smile or a thank you that you’ll receive is priceless. Activities such as volunteering at the homeless shelter or helping your friend clean their room can make you feel good for the rest of the day.

 

OK, this one might sound contradictory for those who are obsessed with food. But try thinking of food as your friend instead of an enemy waiting to destroy you. One trick to appreciate your food more is to cook it yourself. Find a recipe that looks appealing to you and after it is all ready, you will enjoy the food more and eat more slowly. Slow down and savor every bite.

 

OK, so you’re not that far off from being a kid, but sometimes even us teens forget to play. Remember when time used to stretch aimlessly and you didn’t worry about all your responsibilities? Try letting go of all the “shoulds” (“I should study,” “I should weigh less,” “I should exercise”) and have fun, whether it’s playing a video game or goofing off with friends.